I've been in two polyamorous relationships. The first one was a "Heinlein marriage" where the woman literally got me drunk and shoved me into the bedroom with her husband, and the second was two best friends (male), each of whom knew about the other and initially approved of the open relationship. Neither worked for different reasons.
My husband observed when this came up the other day that there has to be at least friendship respect between all parties involved, and preferably love. A two-on-one situation will devolve quickly, but if all three (or more) respect themselves (a biggie!!!) as well as each other, are scrupulously honest and communicative, it certainly can work.
I am aligned with Vanic gods (known for their polyamorous ways) and therefore mentally and spiritually capable of polyamory, but my husband and I have agreed that monogamy is the best course for the both of us going forward. He is more comfortable with that, and as I am rather comfortable with him, that's the way it stays. As for the "shamanic practitioner" aspect of things, well, what happens in the Otherworld stays in the Otherworld. ;-7
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Date: 2007-02-18 03:56 pm (UTC)My husband observed when this came up the other day that there has to be at least friendship respect between all parties involved, and preferably love. A two-on-one situation will devolve quickly, but if all three (or more) respect themselves (a biggie!!!) as well as each other, are scrupulously honest and communicative, it certainly can work.
I am aligned with Vanic gods (known for their polyamorous ways) and therefore mentally and spiritually capable of polyamory, but my husband and I have agreed that monogamy is the best course for the both of us going forward. He is more comfortable with that, and as I am rather comfortable with him, that's the way it stays. As for the "shamanic practitioner" aspect of things, well, what happens in the Otherworld stays in the Otherworld. ;-7