My Fathers Ashes

[yesthattom]

Saturday morning my plane landed and Ying picked me up at the airport. We left from there to drive to Connecticut where my family was meeting to put my father’s ashes in their final place. (If you recall, my father passed away last year after a long fight with cancer.)

Ying and I were the last to arrive (Mom, Mary [plus 2 daughters], Rosanne [plus husband and 1 daughter], Edward, Fran, and me [plus Ying]).

We all went to Hammonasset Beach State Park to swim. The kids really like it there. When we got back we ate lunch while the adults discussed a number of options for what to do with the ashes and it was pretty easy to get agreement. My mother had bought tickets to see a musical, so we went to that. At night we went to my father’s favorite restaurant, Lenny and Joe’s Fish Tale. When we got home we all went to sleep pretty quickly.

Sunday morning we woke up early for the ceremony. It went without a hitch. We had flowers for the nieces to spread around the area.

We’ll have to go back in a few months to place the headstone on his plot, which hasn’t been ordered yet. (we weren’t sure if we were going to use the plot he had bought... it’s a long story.)

Then Ying and I drove back to NJ. A long weekend indeed.

Personally I had completed my grieving process about my father months ago but it was good to get one step closer to completion.

Comments

[docstrange.livejournal.com]

You know, you're the one person I know from back then to lose a parent in a long, long while. It's sobering to be reminded that the clock is ticking, and that life is short. Thank you for opening up about it all.